If you were to ask me, Tim Han, several years ago if I could let go of my need to control my future circumstances, I'd probably have laughed it off. The world seemed so unpredictable, fraught with difficulties and hurdles that appeared insurmountable. And yet, looking back, I can't help but smile in irony. In attempts to micromanage every future aspect, we unknowingly wrap ourselves in this cocoon of anxiety, blind to the reality that life isn't something to be controlled but experienced.

When I started Success Insider, I navigated through these feelings quite a bit. To relinquish control felt like setting off on a ship into a stormy sea, no compass in hand. The fear of the unknown was genuinely daunting. But as I look back now, what I can undoubtedly vouch for is that the first step towards managing anxiety begins from accepting that we can't, and shouldn't, control everything about our future.

Take it from the likes of some of the greatest achievers of our time. Bill Gates didn't know the juggernaut of success Microsoft would become; neither did Oprah understand the reins of a media empire that she would hold in her hands one day. And yet, they thrived despite the uncertainties. They let go of the need to control, and in doing so, unlocked the gateway to unanticipated but truly transformative journeys.

Letting go isn't about abandoning your dreams and aspirations; instead, it means realizing that the beauty of life lies within its unpredictability. It's accepting that not everything will be a smooth sail and that’s okay. It is saying a gracious yes to unexpected twists and turns. It is saying yes to the marvellously messy, terrifyingly enthralling experiential dance of life.

Think of it like this. When we hold a feast, do we know every detail of the conversations that will unfold? Absolutely not! We prepare for the event, invite our friends, set the table, but the interactions that transpire, the laughter, the drama, the memories – it’s beyond our control. But that doesn't make it any less enjoyable, does it? Similarly, life is a banquet, laid out with uncertainty. We've been invited to partake, and while we can't mandate each aspect of it, we can savour every morsel, every conversation, every memory it offers.

But, how do we even begin to let go? I should tell you that it wasn’t easy when I first began. It's akin to learning a new language. But like learning anything new, it takes practice, patience, and a lot of self-love. My journey began with the LMA course, understanding that acceptance comes with taking small steps in the right direction. Start small. Start with today. Can we accept that today will unfold as it should and not according to our meticulous plans?

Reflect for a moment – How would you feel if you could let go of worrying over the job promotion or dwelling over the what-ifs around your latest entrepreneurial venture? How much space would it free in your head and heart? How much lightness would you feel?

It is essential to resist the urge to impose our design on the canvas of life and instead, let it paint itself in hues of colors we couldn't have imagined. Let life surprise you. Trust me when I say this, sometimes, the universe has plans far greater than ours. All it asks from us is the courage to let go and the trust to accept whatever comes our way.

We often forget that today was once a future we were anxious about. And yet, we're here, reading this, brimming with past victories, and ready to face the future ones.

Anxiety lessens when we unlock our clenched fists and let life flow between our fingers. It diminishes when we embrace the possibility of the unpredictable and breathe through the inevitable. The moment we stop trying to control our future is the moment we truly begin to live.