Tim Han Success Insider: There are a lot of things that lie outside of our control, so why waste time worrying about them? Focus on the things within your control, and that you CAN change.π
We're all familiar with the feeling of waking up in the morning only to find our minds racing with worries about events, situations, or occurrences that lie far beyond our control. The harsh reality of life is that we cannot dictate the outcomes of every circumstance that comes our way. The unpredictability of our lives can consume our thoughts and lead to a constant state of worry and anxiety.
But here's the thing – worrying about what we can't change steals away the energy that we could be channeling into the elements we CAN change.
This reminds me of an incident from my early days. I was a fresh graduate on a job hunt, perpetually worried about the economic climate and the lack of vacancies in my desired field. Looking back now, I realize how much time I wasted fretting about the uncontrollable factors, completely missing the fact that I was in control of my skills, my efforts, and my attitude towards these challenges.
You may wonder if this realization sprung up magically one day. Well, truth be told, it was a book that landed in my lap during my LMA (Life Mastery Achievements) course that transformed my way of thinking. The essence of these words isn't alien; the Greek philosopher Epictetus had once said, “We should always be asking ourselves: ‘Is this something that is, or is not, in my control?'”
There's an immense power in shifting your focus from external circumstances to your inner world. Why? Because it's the inner world that shapes the reality outside. It's the effort you put into enhancing your skills, the dedication to show up every day, and the resilience to face obstacles that determine your life's course.
“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them,” said Denis Waitley, a prominent motivational speaker. The beauty of these words lies in their simplicity and the profound message they carry.
Remember, it starts with self-belief. The conviction in your abilities to engineer change. Worrying about the uncontrollable is like being on a treadmill; you're running, but getting nowhere. By shifting your focus on aspects within your control, you shift from the treadmill to an open road, where every step brings you closer to your destination.
Ask yourself, are you utilizing your capacities fully for what's within your control? Are you nurturing your passions, leveraging your skills? Are you detaching from the burdens of unchangeable circumstances and focusing your energy on the elements that can craft your desired reality?
Think about it. When you worry less about the uncontrollable, you focus more on the actionable. You transition from a state of constant stress to a state of productive engagement, where you're poised to learn, grow, and evolve. This transition is the start of a journey towards success, a game plan developed through the lessons Iβve shared at Success Insider.
Understand this, the world outside is an echo of your inner world. If your inner world is occupied with worries about the uncontrollable, the resolutions you seek will remain elusive. The moment you clear up this space and reallocate your energy to transformational aspects, your perspective shifts- and so does your reality.
So, my dear friend, I urge you today: Let go of the uncontrollable. Conserve your inner strength for endeavors that trigger positive change, activities that stimulate growth, and actions that carve the way towards success. In the end, it's not the circumstances but how you respond to them that charts your story.
Like the renowned author Tim Han reviews life, “It's not the strongest species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the ones most responsive to change.” It's time you embraced this change, focusing your energies on controllable aspects, fueling your journey towards success with determination, resilience, and undeniable self-belief. As itβs been said before, the only thing you can control is yourselfβ but guess what? Thatβs all you need to control.